I help you to understand how to build habits that support the lifestyle you want.
Most people don’t consciously make a choice about the lifestyle they want to live when it comes to their health and happiness. They are often so caught up in the day-to-day that they haven’t stopped to think about how they would like to be living.
Then they look in the mirror one day and are not comfortable with what’s looking back at them – they are tired, burnt out, lacking energy, feel a sense of helplessness and overwhelm. They have lost focus on what’s important, so caught up in survival mode and not enjoying life, having fun or even stopping to enjoy the journey.
They might deep down feel a sense of resentment to all the things they are putting first before themselves but can’t seem to make the decision that their needs are important too. Most of them know what they ‘should’ do but feel like it’s too big a job, too hard, don’t know where to start, don’t have the energy or even the motivation to make a change.
So that was me. From the outside, it looked like I had this hugely successful corporate career, and in a sense I did. I also absolutely loved what I did, however I really wanted to be there for my kids. So, I was trying to do it all – a good wife, a great mother and a successful professional.
I'd stay up really, really late and get up really early, trying to get everything done. I was probably getting less than five hours sleep a night. I would start my day at 5:00 am with some exercise, then drop my daughters to school and then I would race to work, often not having time for any breakfast. I'd just grab a coffee to get through the day. Often, I wouldn't have lunch, as I was too busy working trying to get everything done. I'd just have another coffee and maybe a muesli bar that I had in my handbag. I would just push through.
I got to the point where I literally couldn't do it anymore. I just felt really, really burnt out. I'd just start missing things. I could see my kids observing me and I knew I wasn't setting a very good example for them. I was always working and tired and really starting to get cranky. What I realized was I really wasn't enjoying life at all. My whole life was working, running the kids around, maintaining the house, food preparation. There was no time at all for me. It was insane. So, on the outside, it looked like I was coping but it was super stressful. I needed to reassess my priorities.
At the time, I thought I was prioritizing my health, because to me, health was exercise and nutrition. I would prioritise cooking a nutritious dinner for my family every night, over resting or doing something for myself. In hindsight, I now realise, I had terrible brain fog as I wasn’t fueling my body. If I knew then what I know now about how important it was, and the difference it made to my body, by having a healthy breakfast with protein, and having lunch, I would've made the effort. I just prioritized doing it for everyone else, and not me that was the thing.
So that was me, not getting enough sleep, zero time for self-care and when I did my health will, it highlighted to me that I was doing great on exercise and some nutrition, but I was not great in sleep, self-care, or stress. Which resulted in me feeling tired all the time and running on empty. This is where my interest in health coaching came from. I realised there was a whole lot more to health than just exercise and nutrition. There is so much I have learnt in my journey that I want to share with my clients.
I get so much joy from working with my clients to identify what is feasible with their lifestyle at that moment. Often it is really small, really simple habits that give them back some of themselves. I know, from my own experience, that the reality is there's no way we can change everything instantly.
I understand that it can feel overwhelming, for my clients, and that they don't know where to start or feel they can't make lots of changes at once. I'm here to tell them that I'll work with them to help them with the small tiny habits, one step at a time, so that it isn't overwhelming. So that they can still do all the things that they do in their life, but start to feel better, and start on their journey.